Weekend Reads #33: Bookish Quirks

Weekend Reads is a weekly discussion on a variety of topics. At the end of the post, I’ll include what I plan to read on the weekend.

This weekend’s question:

Do you loan your books to others?

This is a popular question that often pops up in book tags but though I’m sure I touched on this topic once or twice in other posts, I wanted to discuss it again because it was on my mind and I couldn’t think of another discussion topic.

Do I like to loan out my books? No. I don’t. If someone asks to borrow one of my books, I’ll try all tricks to deter them from leaving my presence with it. That’s harsh but I don’t trust others with my books anymore. I wasn’t always this way. In the past, I didn’t mind loaning my books to others and would sometimes force one my books on someone who I know would enjoy reading it. But the more books I buy with my own money and the more I realize that not everyone takes good care of books or are considerate enough to return them in the condition given, the more I’ve stopped loaning them out. The exception is those who I live with, the people in my house, the people who I can easily track down and who can quickly return my book once they’re done with it instead of keeping it forever.

But I sometimes compromise. No, I still don’t lend my books but I’m more than willing to point a person to the nearest library or bookshop. That’s a compromise. Other times, if it’s a book I don’t mind parting with, I’ll give the book to the person who asks to borrow it; or, if I know someone would like a particular book I own and I don’t mind parting with it, I’ll give it to them and tell them to read it.

Though some relatives and friends have come to accept this weird bookish quirk, there are others who think that I am being mean or take a deep offense to my refusal to lend a book. This bothers me. I’m not trying to be mean. It’s just that certain things I own are off limits and those things are my books. I simply don’t understand why someone would insist on asking to borrow them if they are already aware of my unwillingness to loan them.

But what are your views on this? Please share below.
What I’m reading this weekend:

I should probably head this section with “What I’m going to read this week” instead since I hardly read on the weekends anymore.

This weekend I completed Anna and the Swallow Man by Gavriel Savit. I completed it on Friday, actually, shortly after arriving home from work. It’s a nice story and well written too but, that ending. I think it’s the first that I’ve found it hard to move past the ending of a book. I didn’t want it to end the way it did and I kept rereading the last chapters in a futile way of seeing it end differently. I was so caught up in the characters. I just thought… I’ll probably reread those last chapters again tonight.

This weekend or this coming week, I plan to start Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel. I bought it a while ago and I can’t wait to pick up where I left off. I’m just itching to start reading it.

What are you reading this weekend? Please share below.

14 thoughts on “Weekend Reads #33: Bookish Quirks

  1. For me, it depends on the person I’m lending it to. If one of my fellow bookworm friends asks to borrow a book, I let them. I trust them because I’ve seen their shelves and I know they’ll take good care of my books since they take such good care of their own! They often let me borrow their books as well, so it’s a win-win situation. 🙂
    For people I don’t really know that well I don’t lend out my books unless I don’t want to keep the book and don’t really mind if it gets back to me in less than pristine condition (or not at all). I’ve had bad experiences with book lending in the past, like I’m sure many others have, so I’m picky about lending.


  2. I lent my Harry Potter to a good friend because she doesn’t like reading but asked for a recommendation from me. And it’s been almost a year and she still has it in her home! I rarely ever lend books in the first place but now I am almost never lending books to people. Even though I borrow books from my friends all the time 😅

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    1. Lol. I try to avoid borrowing books from others because I am that person who holds onto a book for a long time. I guess my not lending books is to prevent someone like myself from borrowing them. Lol.

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  3. I’m happy to loan a book as long as I don’t really need it back. I think of it more as passing a book I’ve read on to someone else. And if it gets returned, that’s fine too.

    I loved Station Eleven! I’m reading Career of Evil by Robert Galbraith (it’s awesome).

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    1. Despite my opinions on loaning books, I do believe that a great way of looking at it: “passing a book I’ve read on to someone else.” It’s a kind way of looking at it. Maybe I’ll get there one day.


  4. OKAY! Oh I have opinions about loaning books out! Hahaha
    I. Hate. Loaning. Books. I wish people wouldn’t even ask!
    Like this one time I lent The Summer I Turned Pretty trilogy to my friend in year 10 (so 4 years ago) and NO JOKE I only got them back like 2 months ago! And that was because I was at her house and I was looking at her bookcase and was like ‘hey! Umm…. Aren’t they mine?!’ And she was like ‘ohh HAHAHAHA yeah!’. Well in my head I’m like WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING THIS ISNT A LAUGHING MATTER THEIF!
    And I also lent the first Jasper Dent book to a girl I work with like mid last year AND STILL HAVENT GOTTEN IT BACK!
    ITS JUST SO FRUSTRATING AND ANNOYING! I feel like I’ll sound like a crazy person if I be like YO DUDE WHERES MY BOOK AT? But at the same time, like that’s my book!! I brought it with my own money and you’ve effectively stolen it!
    Also another time (soz about the rant, I just have a lot of pent up frustration about this lol) my twin sister (who obviously knows how I love my books) borrowed a brand new book I’d just brought and hadn’t read yet with her to Thailand and when she came back it was water logged, the cover had like 163838 creases through it, pages were ripped and bent. But the only good thing about this story is that since it was my sister who did this and not a friend I was able to be visibly mad at her for it! Haha! (She ended up buying me another book to make it up to me).

    But then right now I actually have on my night stand 4 books a new friend has lent me to read -it’s her favourite series and she wants me to read so we can Fangirl. But I’ve got like a booked TBR and I’m not sure when I’m going to be able to squeeze them in so I’m fearing I may have them for like a month of two. The I start to feel like one of the people I hate. See dilemma.

    Thank you for letting me rant on your post hahaha!!! Great post! Loved it!!!!

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    1. Lol! You’re welcome. I welcome the rant!

      I also wonder if I’ll sound weird if I constantly bother people with reminders to return my books. I don’t like to bug people about things. But yea, since I’ve stopped loaning books, I’ve also stopped borrowing them from people as well because I never read books exactly when I plan to which is why there are so many unread books on my shelves.

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  5. Great post! I haven’t read either of those- looking forward to hearing your thoughts 🙂 I don’t usually lend out books, but I changed my tune recently, which was dumb. I basically just lent loads of books I didn’t want back- except one- that I’ve asked for and hasn’t been returned :/ Silly decision


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